What the title should actually be is how to dress like the perfect wedding guest without looking like you are going to prom or have completely given up on your personal sense of style!
Indian weddings are simple. You might look like a wet cat one second but once you wear a sari – no matter what the sari – you will look like you belong to the red carpet. Most saris require no styling tricks, no effort, no interest, no thought. You wear a sari and you will look awesome. For instance, the saris we are wearing here are absolutely minimal, inexpensive ones (actually some of them are not even saris but just the material which we liked and used as a sari).
Now coming back to my problem. So Indian weddings are easy to dress for. Put on a sari. This will usually be the new sari or the only sari that is dry-cleaned or the only sari you have managed to find a blouse and skirt for or the only one you can find (or manage to borrow from your sister). I wish I could tell you there was a lot more thought put into it but sadly, this isn’t the case.
But weddings in London are difficult to dress for as a wedding guest.
Unless it’s an Indian wedding, its odd wearing a sari. (Top tip: do NOT wear a sari if you know the bride will be wearing a white dress. The chances of your sari looking dressier than the white dress are high. You do not want to be THAT wedding guest dress – the weird one, dressier than the bride. Trust me. No one looks at that guest and thinks, ‘Wow, she looks great’. Everyone just thinks ‘Really? Was that necessary?’ and I think ‘God, what a weirdo.’ I have seen a lot of these weddings guests and can recognise them at one glance.)
And dresses never look dressy enough. So what can you do?
- Focus on what is required. You need to look polished, dressed up and happy, not dramatic. Dramatic is for the bride.
- Take a cue from the bride – dress accordingly. If the bride is wearing five yards of red silk – go all out. You probably will not manage to be more eye-catching than that. You are safe. But if she is wearing something a little more subdued, you should ‘downgrade’ accordingly.
- Wear something that reflects your style. You will feel more comfortable and confident.
I recently went for a wedding reception and decided my style meant wearing studs and my favourite item of clothing – a blazer!
Outfit details: Blue dress from katebridal, studded heels from Charles & Keith, black blazer from JoJobride, blue studded bag from Forever New and lipstick is MAC Ruby Woo.
And thank you to everyone who entered the giveaway we organised. The winner is SHUMAILA – congratulations! We will be in touch with you soon for your details so we can send across your prize!
To everyone else: you might be disappointed but you can be rest assured you have encouraged us to hold more giveaways on the blog! If we hadn’t seen so many entries we would never have thought anyone would be interested. A big thank you.
Hope you enjoyed the post and have a great weekend everyone.
– Anisha



I tend to wear a repro vintage dress to a wedding, dressed up enough but never upstaging the bride
Sounds like the perfect compromise! Also, would love to see the dress! Where did you get it from?
I posted about it on my blog
Repro vintage clothes are so common now, you can find them on a lot of sites. My favourites are Collectif and Hell Bunny and there are even a few Collectif stores around London that you could explore. Google Collectif, Hell Buny, Lindybop, LadyV London and Tiger Milly. There is such an amazing range of brand new dresses in the style of vintage, it may be the opiate of the masses but it’s incredibly useful for most of us who can’t afford or find true vintage
I am totally inspired with your selection of a wedding dress. Going to try it next time.
Thank you! Smart and polished is all you need!